Saturday, April 20, 2013

Feild of Daisies



Title:  Field of Daisies
Author:  Barbara Hattemer
Pages:  240
Year:  2012
Publisher:  Oak Tara
                Ever hear the words that God makes all things work together for good for those who love the Lord?  While this is not a verbatim quote, capture the truth in those words and see if you can locate them in your Bible.  This novel is a gripping story about a family dealing with Alzheimer’s along with the rippling and sometimes crippling effect the disease can have for years on people.  The main female character, Andrea, is portrayed as a very dedicated wife, mother, as well as caregiver to her surviving sole parent in her later years.  In the story, at the end of herself Andrea is reminded of Who her true source for strength and comfort is.  As a result, she learns to let go of her expectations of others.
                Andrea goes through a couple of different caretakers before she finds one who is able to commit to remain until the end of her mother’s life.  Adele freely shares that it is the Lord who gets the credit as she was ready to quit and leave that morning.  During the months of stress, Andrea’s husband is running the business and not present to help carry the daily load of caretaking, which brings more anxiety into an already precarious season of life.  In fact, Lans is frustrated not wanting to take on the high cost of not being able to live a life with his wife uninterrupted.  The caretaking is driving a wedge in the marriage or is it something far greater than seen with the naked eye?
                Personally, after 12 years of caretaking, I am glad to say that it ended, but I have no regrets.  My husband and I made a commitment to each other as well as to his parents to care for them.  The whole realm of Alzheimer’s includes many costs besides the first one most people think of that being the medical.  There were times it was hard on our marriage or spending time with our sons.  At one point, I had to leave all other commitments to be the main one available for this season.  Words of encouragement, advice, as well as many not understanding our choices and constantly questioning or pressuring us were part of that realm too.  My family made the decision that we believe God called us to fulfill.  During that long season, it is hard for many to comprehend what we went through.
                I will share though that depending on the Lord is the ultimate reality for such a season, being willing to go even if others shun you is something to understand before doing.  Also, I was blessed with a friend who stayed by me side and still is my closest girlfriend.  We met before the season began and never has she left me alone to walk through a harsh climate this side of heaven.  In the novel, Andrea had someone who was willing to walk closely with her as well, and the help true friendship gives is beyond words.  If you know someone who is going through this time, ask how the Lord would have you walk with them while they are in a very harsh place.  Remember, it doesn’t have to be a big act of kindness; sometimes, the simple things at the right time can ease the pain in a heart.
                My rating is 4 stars.
Note:  I received a complimentary copy for an honest review of this book.  The opinions shared in this review are solely my responsibility.  Other reviews can be read at http://seekingwithallyurheart.blogspot.com/.  Also follow me on Twitter @lcjohnson1988, FaceBook at https://www.facebook.com/lisa.johnson.75457
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